.::Suzanna Arundathi Roy::.

Un- Birthday :) Howwzz tatzzz??? :)

Hope koothars are excited to have a party this month.. :) on the 28th, celebrating achu-machus birthday.. a celebration for losing one more year from life..

As my grand pa says.. "one's 25th birthday is a Quarter final, 50th Birthday is a semi final.." i dint knw wot he really meant..but after put my thoughts completely in to it i understood.. he was quietly silently criticizing "the whole birthday celebration stuff" with a cute smile on his face.. i found the invisible tale of his quote that... after 50 is to wait for the grand final.. :)

Well- generally people celebrate it commemorating the day on which the took the first in hail of air.. the anniversary of the day when they took birth..becoz of which they could reach in higher stages..becoz of which they are being loved by..becoz of which they having evrything they have..

But is it really require to celebrate a day which really highlight the fact that we climbed one more step to our Grave..?? [this is frm my view point]

i think its a day for evry parents to cherish the memory of the day when god gifted a fruit of lil life for them..after several months of longing..its a day for evry mom to feel pride that she carried a piece of god in her womb..protected it from evry sides..and helped it safely reach on earth through every pains and sacrifices.. a birthday should be a day for thanks giving to the parents for the struggles they suffered,, the sufferings they overcame to bring us alive..

Our gen kids are just like born to celebrate..To celebrate is to live and to live is to Celebrate.. is it needed to wait fr a single day in a year to have fun and enjoy??

some times its like,evry body knows, we are all busy to make a living..in the pressure ful schedule.. we have planned some particular days to enjoy, and in addition if we choose our birthday as it..it has a reason too.. a fake reason..its my birthday lets enjoy!!

Why arent we able to enjoy every day?? why cant we foget the just one day in a year and rest of the days to enjoy?? like we will choose the birthday as " Sad Birthday" and remaining days as happy un-birthdays??

See a goood..unbirthday song as follows and practice it... lets sing it evryday and cry on a single day :) let people bless us on 364days and curse us on 1 days :D he he..


An Unbirthday Poem:
A very merry unbirthday
To me
To who?
To me
Oh, you

A very merry unbirthday
To you
Who, me?
To you
Oh, me

Let's all congrulate us with another cup of tea
A very merry unbirthday to you

Now statistics prove
Prove that you've one birthday
Imagine just one birthday every year
Ah, but there are 364 unbirthdays
Precisely why we're gathered here to cheer

A very merry unbirthday
To me?
To you
A very merry unbirthday
For me?
For you
Now blow the candle out, my dear
And make your wish come true
A very merry unbirthday to you

:D he he he ha ha ha hureeeeeeeeeyyyyy!!!!!!!

tHE colOR rED!!

i believe everyone has their own favorite color... and people always care to apply that in their outfits..shoes..wallets..cars.. mobiles.. even painting their house or at least their room..Some people choose it officially for their company logos, brochure, visiting cards..and so on.. the like towards certain colors effects behavior..or people with same likes of color possess similar kinda behavior.. there are some psyco-logy behind it..

In my case my favrt color is RED.. i always gets attracted to what ever thing especially in crimson red color.. and always wished to own a red color swiFT.. red- the color of blood.. but ther s another hidden fact that i faints when ever i see blood.. no matter real or in photographs or movies.. :)...

If we talk about the color red, it sands for Passion and warmth..Vigor and excitement..Strength and vitality.. yes red is been loved by very rare people..It's a strong color that conjures up a range of seemingly conflicting emotions from passionate love to violence and warfare..a great poets comments "Red is Cupid and the Devil"... thats true!! theres no color on earth which belongs hugh number f negative and positive faces and meanings like this... Red also signifies "Power", hence the red color tie for business people and the red carpet for celebrities and VIPs... and the people who loves red will be always extreme in what ever they do..

Good red :
Red letter day - important or significant occasion
Red carpet treatment - make someone feel special, treat them as if they are a celebrity
Roll out the red carpet - same as above
Red sky in the morning, sailor's warning; red sky at night, sailor's delight - pay attention to good and bad warning signs
Paint the town red - celebrate, go out partying
Red eye - an overnight flight

Bad red :
Seeing red - to be angry
Red herring - something that deceives or distracts attention from the truth
In the red - being overdrawn at the bank or losing money
Red flag - denotes danger, warning, or an impending battle

what what explanations behind a simple color..isn't it?? :) :) i know you all are wondering.. y machu's this time behind a color.. there are reasons too..not only with the color but with the alphabets "dt" together..

just give a piece of your brain to recall this..my previous company was India Destination Tours, they calls it 'idt' in short..and my new company is Dravidian Trails in short form 'dt"... idt's logo was full in red with everything written in white.. the very same thing is what its around here too.. just like xerox.. even the tea mat..

the letter "D" or Delta in Greek means.. rich and fertile.. and the letter "T" or Tou in Greek says "life".. combing both.. "Rich Life" ... both of my employers are smart.. tricky in doing business(which is essential to climb up)... power/wealth conscious...i doubt if i have finally reached the same ocean from where a few months back i stopped rowing and took a diversion.. This similarities.. i would say hidden similarities urge me to cultivate thoughts..like.. i will have sore experiences from here too.. :D m not sure.. may be this are all just a mental impulse...

As per colorology.. people who loves same color attracts in a way or other.. in both idt & dt .. i passed the interviews eazily.. i remember the first day at idt in 2006.. i had a casual talk.. and with no risks.. selected.. i used to get nervous a bit while i was interviewed by so many other people.. but not at both these places.. there are for sure some unknown answers for all this..

i also remember long back whn i go for an interview at Muthoot hospitality..i passed the interview.. their log is also white in Red,,.. and similar kind of office settings too.. every where red and white.. :D

anyway lets try my luck.. being passionate to RED color god might have sprinkled the same powder on me also.. to meet a "Delta Tow" life ...in future..

IK's let me have all of your most favorite color too.. i will take a study about the same.. :) for the time being i don't have much works.. he he

awaiting your valuable comments.. ("")( ^ . ~ )

illusion!

i some times doubts wot all happening around me is just an illusion! the past becomes something unreal..even the just gone minute.. you know the journey, the accident our separation..the new job.. is it really d so called reality ??.. or am i struck somewhere in a gap not able to move or .. not able to shout for someones help.. ever since i joined here.. i feels like this is kinda dream.. wot ever happening is just a rapid flow of images.. just like we watch a movie..

i just cant believe myself being this way.. i became a new kinda person.. i m not the person who was so much out spoken.. i m not that person who fights with every one.. i m not the person who worked for myself not for the organization.. this transformation caused that hallucination.. i m not clear but i think so.. :)

i really hate me for bringing negative thoughts in to all of you.. but i dont have any option other than IK4 ..

just think it girls...we really cannot always trust our eyes, or our judgement.. a rose is always good to watch.. it appears to be fine.. beautiful but whn yu try to get closer and tries to pluck it... yu will be wounded by its thrones... the same situation.. i lost ma ability to recognize people frm inside.. i got wot i desired.. but ... its something which is like a bubble gum under my shoes.. so much iritating... i lost myself.. and wots the point in changing a person to fit in some elses shell?? ..ther are rules and regulatons i agree.. but it must be informed me in an official way .. like evrywhere happens they should hav mention all those point s in the beginning itself..

you doubt it right.. yes,,... this is a complaint letter.. since i cant disclose this to any one. and ... since these people got answers for evry thing.. i m not suppose to react.. but i will not act against my conscience..

i want to be independent..i am not a domestic animal to cage me.. :( .. is this all really happening.. i cant trust.. or am i lying some where unconscious and dreaming?? i never was like this... i hate places where people dont accept me as how i am.. RULES!! wot rules.. i am following all rules which i think i must..

"am i awake
or just asleep that...
evrything is..
claded a black..
am i dreaming
am i dreaming
or relaity??
the most sorest??

is it foggy around
am i blind..
am i thinking aback the black
hands and legs left unmoved
lips and eyes
dry and closed
am i dreaming
amidst a forest

lying unconscious??

somebody come
come to me fast
wake me up...
and help me from
this lifeless life..

:( :(

a back to home feeling!!!

ahh lemme intake enuf of ma IK4 air here...oh gosh.. so long.. its kinda feeling like m back home after a long time.. wot will i say?? m happy.. i dont know wot made me install mozilla firefox today in ma office computer..i dint wait to get anyones permission.. bcez i felt i will burst in to tears..biting my lips..supressin ma feelings.. i m writing this like kinda thief.. trust me..but soo happy to be back in our own premise. munnu i wanted to commet on all your posts,, that i will do later becoz.. yu know that i am really stealing my office time.. he he.. love you all koothars... and miss US together,, it was lovely.. no better words... just lovely.. but we are really blessed with US..

:)

“The spaces between your fingers were created so that another’s could fill them in”.This quote had always remained my favorite.Ever wondered about the depth of message they convey!

To hold someone’s hand is to offer them affection,protection or comfort.It is a way to communicate and telling them silently “I am here,with you..”Holding hands remains a sign of intimacy between friends and lovers,couples and family,keeping two people together as they navigate the world around them.People hold hands for several reasons such as; a gesture of friendship ,or of love;acknowledgment of one’s presence or as sign of respect as in a handshake;a part of religious service or ritual;to enjoy physical contact;for emotional support;to guide ,as with a child , a blind person ,or an elderly;to urge someone to follow,to dance and on many more instances..

The symbolic meaning of holding hands varies for different cultures and gender. A personal relationship that does not involve any sexual behavior, e.g. friendship, may also involve physical intimacy. In western culture it is often more among female than among male friends; the latter may want to avoid associations with homosexuality. In other cultures, such as Arab culture, men may hold hands with no implication of homosexuality.Many East Asian cultures typically encourage relatively little body contact between friends, acquaintances, and members of the same sex. Even among family members and spouses, traditionally, there are fewer public displays of affection.

A man and a woman who are friends may avoid physical intimacy to avoid associations with sexuality or emotional intimacy, in order not to appear to be in a relationship. This is especially true if one or both of them is already in a relationship with another person.

Physical closeness may also be involuntary, as in a crowded train or elevator.Every touch is not with sexual intention.I wonder why some people seem to view the world only through their own glasses.That’s gross.

Hand holding depends on the relationship established with the person whose hand is being held and their willingness to accept the intended gesture based upon their understanding of its origin and significance.Some people are more into public displays of affection than others,as some avoid much touching in public and will avoid it for their own reasons,even if they are quite intimate and loving in private.Sometimes,holding hands can be an aggressive gesture of sign of control or dominance in a relationship.If a man grabs a woman’s hands and drags her along behind him,this may not be a much of gesture of closeness,but a gesture of dominance..

To add,the dream interpretation of ‘holding hands’ is given as “Holding hands or other positive interaction with hands can represent good will or affection that you feel towards someone, that you believe someone feels towards you, or you wish you were receiving.”

Nonsexual touch and other signs of affection strengthens your marriage relationships,creating a comforting and calming atmosphere in your home,builds more trust between the two of you,and deepens your intimacy with one another.A research of 16 marrried women who scored high on marriage-satisfaction inventory showed that simply holding their husband’s hand eased both physical sign of stress and their brain’s responses to pain.Holding your parents hands when they are in stress will do wonders on relieving their stress.Hold your sister’s or brother’s hands when you cross road,see them smile at you lovingly and read their eyes telling you “Thank you for being there”.During college days,I had many many friends whom I could hold hands and could lean upon their shoulders and take a deep breath to hear their heart’s wishper “I am here for you dear”..even now,iam blessed with you all, Those moments are treasured deep inside my heart and nothing on earth and heaven above can take its place..


When was it the last time you held you dear ones hands and said silently “I care for you,and I am here for you no matter what”.Time will not wait for me and you.Before you lose your loved ones,tell them how much they mean to you and make yours and theirs day a wonderful one.Good luck!!

Wanna be successfull in lyf..but why??

How to be successful in life?
Isn’t that an age-old ,one billion dollar question?But I’ld like to think it the other way.”Why do you wanna be successful in life?!”
‘Success’ is a subjective term..For me,success maybe to have my plant yeild fruits,it maybe the smile on the face of suffering people and to know that iam the reason behind it and like wise .But for a person of different profile,success may mean to accumulate wealth and increase social status…to compete or co-operate with others…to destroy others who harm you, or to practice nonviolence and nonresistance …to die having succeeded in your purpose and so on..and finally,for some people it is to simply live until one dies!
Leaving aside the defenition of what success is,let us hear from people why they feel they should be successful.
“I need to be successful as to have a career and getting to live without regret into old age with lots of friends.”
“Because I need Money Money and Money.”
“I need to be successful inorder to reach the highest possible level of awareness, deepest possible level of perception, newest possible levels of consciousness.”
“If I am successful, I will have money. And really, money does buy happiness. In my opinion, living on the streets is not being happy for me.Also it helps because I am an advertisers dream. I buy what I want. (And that is basically everything I see).”
“For being able to look back on my life at deaths door, and smile.”
“Because if i’m not successful in doing what i love, then it would be a fairly depressing existence.”
“So that i can help less fortunate people .”
“I know what the struggle is like, and I would prefer to not lose hair each month when the bills arrive!”
……. So goes on the varied thoughts.
Well,this question gave some answers like these too:-)
“I don’t! The less success the better, I would rather live under a bridge than have to have bodyguards, or paparazzi following me around.”...............

To me , personally I need to be successful so that I’ll gain recognition in my personal life, career and among the friends who mean a lot and that is my barometer for success in journey through life.Sometimes i prefer crying alone and make the people around me happy n wen i see them smiling to me , i feel like iam the most successful women in this world ."How Many Lives did I touch " That is what makes sense to me.
And what is it to you?

Just think about it...sounds cool na.....:)

Bday

Dear All :

Happy Bday to my soul mates, my frnds , my sister evrthng the one n only ik4...Today , our Bday and it seems very odd as none of us were able to meet today...

The day was so hectic for me...everthing was horible, the train journey the ofce work the return journey evrything...

Couldnt even talk to any of the IK4...iam really sad n evrthing that is hapning around me is going in a wrong way...still i ve to fix a smile on my face to make others happy..Dont knw why is it lik this 4 me always...

hmm..any way, its our bday..even though we could nt celebrate it properly we all love this day...SO happy Bday to IK4

i miss u ol so badly....love u so muchhh

Intimacy

An intimate experience is one of the cherished moments of your life. Nothing else can be more fantastic than sharing your deepest thoughts with the person you love the most. “Fear of intimacy”,a common term referred to in failing relationships.Ever wondered why it matters so much?Well,I personally believe that a relationship is all about intimacy,and fear of intimacy ruins the basic fulfillment and no beautiful and long-lasting bonds can be developed over such a fragile foundation.It is hard for most of us to believe that if someone else REALLY knows us, they will still love us.

Intimacy is communicating your true thoughts and feelings;fear of intimacy involves emotional walls.Intimacy in relationships involves sharing what you really think,believe and feel.It’s about opening up your heart and mind,and lettng others do the same.It’s risky,which is why fear of intimacy often develops.Intimacy is very risky. It requires making such a serious commitment to the relationship that each person will experience a sense of dependency on the other.Even if you love someone who loves you back wholeheartedly and vows to never hurt you,you’re taking a risk.But as potentially risky as loving is not-loving is worse.

When you now what you fear,you’re in a better position to deal with it.Opening your heart and letting go of your fears can be difficult.But you’ve to when it becomes inevitable in making the relationship a beautiful one.Fear of intimacy can be overcome only when the dread of rejection is removed.The strongest foundation of an intimate relationship is a good friendship.Ask yourself questions like ’what stops me being more intimate in my relationships’ and rapidly move to ‘what will happen when I am able to be more intimate in my relationships?’.The answer you find yourself you open up windows and let bliss flow in.

Always remember that not everyone can express their feelings well.If you want,then you can practice on being more intimate.However,there is no way you can change the people you love.While we cannot change others,we can encourage them to express themselves.It is important to let them know that we won’t reject them,no matter what.Thatz part of trust building we talk about.Encourage openness and honesty.The more we discuss fear of intimacy,the more the other person may open up.Overcoming fear of intimacy requires honesty on both sides.The more both partners open up and embrace each other,the more deeper and intimate the relation will be....

courtesy to one of my frnd for this blog..:)

ChaNge..

even dho we were looking out fr a change..its kinda sore feeling whn we got it, like its feeling like..everything changed all in a moment..so suddenly..god changed us like some magicians turn a paper ball in to flowers in a single spell.. faith is always beyond our wish.. this is wot we wanted but ..we didnt want it this quickly.. paachus got transfer..i resigned and gona join new job frm 05th onwards..the one left is Munnus.. sure by the month of May.. yu will also get yur turn..life is too misterious..too unpredictable..things happns in that very unexpected manner..life is like a flash light ..as sir.paulo says.. "ths world is never a safe place to live" why arent we not able to live our life as we wish..?? why arent we doing wat we really wants to do?? i m scared..m scared about every next moment..m feeling insecure..feelin like m being send to a lonely planet..with alians all around.. i wana scream loudly.. ;[

lets...lets just pray god..i dont have anything els to write..